Appearance Vs Reality

To appear wise, one must talk; To be wise, one must listen.
To appear to do good, one must be busy; To do good, one must know when to stand aside.
To appear to lead, one must put oneself first; To lead, one must put oneself last.
To appear caring, one must give advice; To be caring, one must give space.
To appear to love, one must know how to give; To love, one must know also how to receive.
To appear happy, one must smile; To be happy, one must be free of fears.